I had turned daily life into a distraction from what I wanted, but the reality was I let what I wanted become a distraction from my life
A few weeks ago a writing blog I follow posted on a subject that resonated with me.
“What sort of distractions in your life stall or prevent your writing?” was the jist of it, and after reading answers in the comments ranging from “getting caught up in research” to “social media,” I found myself thinking along a very different line.
There was a time where I felt so many things were distractions. I sat down to write, and someone needed their hands washed or a diaper changed. A fight needed breaking up. Dishes needed to be dealt with, and floors needed to be mopped. The dog needed to go out, and dinner wasn’t going to make itself.
Everybody and everything needed something from me, and for a few weeks I bore a growing resentment of all these distractions from my desire to write. I had a story to tell, and nobody was letting me!
Then came the day I realized something–I had it backwards. I had turned daily life into a distraction from what I wanted, but the reality was I let what I wanted become a distraction from my life.
After that, I worked hard to change my attitude, and I endeavored to make sure I didn’t let the writing distract me from what I considered far more important–my family.
It meant I wrote less. You know what? I still write less. And likely it’ll remain that way for a long while. Someone still needs their hands washed or diaper changed. There are still fights to break up, dishes to wash, and floors to clean. The dog still needs to go out. Again.
But I’m there to see to it, to take care of it, to roll up my sleeves, and to show my children what it means to be present, to be there, in their lives. For that, I know I’ll be rewarded later on, and in many more ways than I can possibly imagine.
So yes, I will continue writing, and I will continue to dream of publication, but for now it’s playing second fiddle, and that’s okay. These faces will keep me happily busy, and oh, the experiences they will give me!